Things Working mom don't need to hear

I am a working mother like so many across the world. It is not new for a mother to work, raise a child and handle the house. Some mothers work from home and some from the office.

The mind set of our society is set to think that a mother can’t do everything, such as work and take care of the house and child. What bothers me is that people have the audacity to tell me on my face, you shouldn’t work from 10am to 6pm, your child is missing a mom back home, stay with him.

A recent talk with a fellow mother brought out these emotions when she uploaded a story on this matter.

We know we are missing out on things, our children are growing up fast and we don’t get to spend time with them as much as we should but I firmly believe that children also need to see that mothers can also work just like their father and help run the house. In the eyes of the child, the primary care giver is the mother and it is a fact, but just because you are the person the child needs doesn’t mean you can’t work or you shouldn’t work.

In today’s world women are educated and independent and want cerebral equality. If our kids see that their moms can do both they will learn to be independent from the very beginning.

When I say that working mom is able to manage everything, let me tell something which is undeniably true, she has a solid support system behind her. This support system can be her husband, parents, in-laws, house helps. Each one of them play a big role in a mom being in the office or working from home.

Working moms guilt is a real thing but for our children to see that his or her mother is working, makes the child understand the value of money and time. Most women in India are lucky enough to work even after bearing a child but most of them ditch the career and sit back home to take care of the child and the house.

Sometimes I think about what is going to happen once the child starts school full time along with the classes. He will have no time for anyone, would want to play with his friends in his free time or would watch TV. What is going to happen then of the mother who left her career to take care of the child.

People who have been working from a very young age and have been working all along, it become difficult for them to sit at home or leave a flourishing career. As a mother our priorities do shift from time to time but I believe our work should never take back seat. Take some time to come back if you want, reduce your working hours but don’t cut yourself out of that working environment.

What happens when you become a stay home mom after working for so many years is a topic for another day.